Adaeze Yobo, wife of Super Eagles Skipper, Joseph Yobo recently took to her instagram page to reveal steps she took to make her marriage work.
Adaeze disclosed that she had to let go of her ego so her marriage which produced a cute 4-year-old son to survive.
She posted a photo and advice to ladies.
Captioning the photo she said;
"This reminded me so much of the first 2years of my marriage(when i had too much ego, it was all about me and what i deserve) I will always randomly have in mind that my husband should know "we gotta go out" I wld seat my ass down all the time and just get mad, i mean doesn't he know? I won't even tell him nonsense! It wasn't that i desperately wanted to go out cos most of the time, we did we had nothing to say to each other but my " I deserve mentality" my "after all, I'm the woman" "the queen" mentality, was my motivator factor.
"Just testing or calling my hubby to say "hey babe, there is this restaurant that makes the best prawns (his favs) let's casually go after your training was what i should have said but here is what i actually said for two years, "Joe(which is what i call him when i am mad) everybody went to that restaurant on that street and even last night this person's husband took her."
"Then he goes from 0-100 in like 2.2 secs and then my ego kicks in. (you don't want to know how fast i also went kuku) and no one ends up eating. I always said to the pple that i complain to, "How dare he? Just cos i want us to go out and have a nice dinner, don't i deserve it? Anyway, the moral of this long story is that when i changed from my " I deserve" mentality to "we deserve " slowly, the tables turned. Now he makes our date, plan calender for a month. I lost out on seeing that soft amazing person he is for the first 2years cos i was always ready to fire, after all he shd have read the manual before marriage."
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